Project 365: Photography Challenge

Today I turn 29 years old. As my twenties come to an end and I prepare to embark on the adventures that my thirties are sure to bring, I find myself reminiscing more than I do on most birthdays. During my twenties my life completely changed, many times over. Who I am changed, many times over. I doubt that any other decade of my life will be as transformative as my twenties. I have this one remaining year and I plan to make the most of it!

I have decided to participate in Project 365. If you aren’t aware, Project 365 is the challenge of taking one photo everyday for a year. Do you remember what happened to you on November 10th 2016? I don’t, I barely remember yesterday. For my last year being a twenty-something I vow to photo document at least one aspect of my life each day until I turn 30!

I have a few reasons for taking up this challenge.

  1. I think it’s a fun way to close this chapter of my life.
  2. I’ve been looking for a new way to freshen up my photography skills.
  3. I hope it will motivate me to get out of the house more.

I will post my photos for the previous month here on my blog on the first of each new month. I’m excited to see what this year holds for me and how it all comes through the lens.

 

If you want to start your own Project 365 challenge let me know. I would love to follow along through your pictures as well! If you want a more formatted platform here are some sites dedicated to the challenge.
https://365project.org/
https://www.blipfoto.com/
http://momentile.com/

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Everyday Mental Health

I have always believed that happiness is a choice. Bad things happen to everyone and life sucks sometimes, it is up to each of us to choose to find happiness despite what life hands us. Lately I have been wondering, where is the line between choosing to find the good in life and pretending to be happy when you aren’t… 2016 (and 2015 and 2014 and 2013…) has been a very challenging year, and 2017 hasn’t started any better. I have lost count of how many people have commented on how strong and positive I am despite the circumstances in my life. On the outside I present a positive, bubbly, happy persona. On the inside I’m drowning in fear and solitude, chocking on stress and despair. I tell myself that the smile on my face is how I choose happiness but the smile is not for me, it’s an act for others.

Let’s be honest. When a co-worker or acquaintance greets you with “How are you?” most of the time they don’t really want to know. It’s not a sincere inquiry into your well being, it’s a hello. A truthful response makes people uncomfortable. The response they want from you (if they even wait around to hear a response) is “I’m good, how are you?”. It’s easier to smile and provide the socially acceptable reply but is it healthy? What effect does the detached, self-absorbed society we live in have on our mental health?

Uh oh, hear we go with another rant about the mental health crisis in America… Hold on, before you click off to a riveting buzzfeed video about different types of spanx, let me explain. I’m not talking about schizophrenia or clinical depression. I want to discuss the everyday mental health of your average Joe (or Josie). The idea of “Mental Health” comes with a stigma of crazy people screaming on street corners or the need for padded rooms and straight jackets. In reality we all need to be aware of our own metal health. Stress is a fact of life, no one is immune and some stress is healthy. On the other hand chronic stress is not only damaging, it’s dangerous. Denying to yourself that you are overwhelmed by stress or the need to appear strong and self-sufficient to others can put you at risk for illnesses, diseases, depression, and damage to your brain. When you have a cold, no one judges you for taking cold medicine and resting. Doctors urge everyone to eat right and exercise; to put effort into protecting a healthy body. No one expects physical health to be a natural given, requiring no effort or thought. We all understand the steps required to keep our bodies healthy and we all make our own choices about taking (or not taking) those steps. Mental health is the same but not viewed this way in our society. It is subconsciously accepted and an incredibly unrealistic belief that if you aren’t happy and stress free with no effort, there must be something “wrong” with you. It only makes since that mental health requires equal attention and effort as physical health to maintain.

We all need to be aware of our own true mental state and be prepared with coping mechanisms to better handle what life throws at us. Whether that be a challenging job, an unhappy family life, loss, illness or a life altering trauma. We will all be faced with more than we can handle. Will you be ready? I still struggle personally with my mental well being but I’m taking steps to improve my coping skills and live a happier life. If the suggestions here can help enlighten even one person, I will have exceeded my goal.

  1. Self Awareness – The first and most difficult step on the road to everyday mental health is self awareness. You can’t improve if you aren’t honest and open with yourself. Becoming self aware is incredibly difficult and can take years to truly accomplish. Each person will find themselves in different ways but here are some basic first steps.
    • Evaluation – Most of us have had to do an annual evaluation at work. Think of this step as that on a deeper level. Make a list of accomplishments, failures, positive personality traits, negative personality traits, strengths, weaknesses, desires, fears, goals, what you enjoy, what you dislike, etc. Gain feedback from people close to you if you feel comfortable doing so (or better yet step out of your comfort zone). explain your need for brutal honesty and add some trusted outside perspective to your list.
    • Analysis – look over your list. Analyze why you are who you are. Why you do what you do. Don’t make excuses or criticize yourself, just look at the facts objectively. Find patterns and behaviors you didn’t realize were a part of you.
    • Meditation – ok, ok I can see the eye roll from here… Meditation is not a one size fits all practice. It doesn’t necessarily have to be sitting cross legged on the floor clearing your mind of all thoughts. Just sit quietly for a couple minutes to start out. Don’t try to think of nothing, try counting your breaths or evaluating how each part of your body feels in that moment. As you gain practice and meditate longer and deeper start detaching yourself of your thought. Simply let your mind go as it will and observe where it leads you. You can learn a lot about yourself by simply observing your minds natural tendencies.
    • Acceptance – Don’t judge yourself. Accept who you are, good, bad and indifferent. Create realistic goals for self improvement but don’t dwell on your “flaws”. Self awareness is not so you can change who you are, it’s so you can accept who you are and be honest with yourself in all things.
  2. Take Control of Your Own Life – I categorize stress in two ways. Stress that happens to you and stress you create. Both are under your control. Stress that you create, you can change. Stress that happens to you can be dealt with and processed. For example, let’s say you have a decent job but never seem to have enough money. Living paycheck to paycheck is stress you create. Evaluate your spending habits, create a budget and eliminate the costs in your life that you don’t need. Stress that happens to you is not something we can avoid, but we can decide how to handle it. For example, imagine someone you love gets sick or dies. This isn’t something you can change but the choice to deal with it in a healthy way or not is yours. Don’t let stress control you. Evaluate the stresses in your life and take the control back!
  3. Find a Healthy Outlet – While acknowledging the stresses in life is important, dwelling on life problems can do just as much damage as avoiding them. If you find yourself overwhelmed, take a break. Do something you enjoy that relaxes you. It can be painting, gardening, kickboxing, cooking, cleaning, etc. Stay away from false relaxations like alcohol, cigarettes or drugs. these provide only a false suspension of reality that only steers you to avoidance of the issue. A healthy outlet is not a solution, it’s a break from the analysis of the problem. Don’t turn your outlet into your crutch.
  4. Talk to Someone – Don’t try to cope alone. Talk to a friend, a family member or a professional. Talk to someone who will listen and support you. Maybe they will offer advice and maybe they won’t. Don’t place expectations on them in regards to the response you want or fixing your problem. Simply talk to someone and let it be enough to say the words out loud. Don’t keep it bottled up. We are only human and we can’t do it alone.
  5. Take an Interest in Others – Sometimes perspective is all we really need. Volunteer with a charity for those less fortunate than you. Take a sincere interest in your friends and co-workers lives. Be the shoulder to lean on for someone else in need. I strongly believe that troubles in others lives in no way minimize the troubles in your own life or vice versa, we all have our burden to bare. But often times helping to lighten the load of someone else’s burden can add much needed perspective to our own lives.
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My Advice: Moving Day!

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No one has ever wished they had an excuse to pack up everything they own in boxes and haul them across town, the state or even the country… No One!

Moving can be stressful… Trust me I know! We are currently moving out of our first home and into our (hopefully) forever home! While we are excited to be taking this next step in our family journey, the process is less than appealing. Between a lazy loan officer, an unresponsive appraiser and impatient sellers, getting into our new house has been one frustration after another.

The process is rarely painless but moving doesn’t have to be a disaster that causes you to rip your hair out. Focus on what you CAN control and hope for the best with the rest.

Here are my top 10 suggestions for making your move as enjoyable as possible!

 

  1. Start Early!
    It can sometimes be difficult to get started but don’t procrastinate! Start packing as soon as you decide to move. Even if you don’t know where you are going yet or when you have to leave. Start with the things you definitely won’t need, family heirlooms, décor items, ect. The longer you wait, the more stressful it will be to rush at the end.
  2. Make Lists!
    I know not everyone loves lists as much as I do, but trust me this is the time to start! Some key lists to have are; Daily needs list, pack last list, two weeks prior list. These lists will help to remind you what NOT to pack so you don’t have to dig through boxes to find things you packed too soon.
  3. Beg For Boxes!
    You can buy boxes at any home improvement store… But should you? If you work in an office talk to the IT department and the person who orders supplies first. You can also ask your local grocery store for boxes. Don’t forget to ask any friends and family members that have moved recently for any discarded boxes they may have lying around. These boxes will just be recycled if you don’t grab ’em up! Most places are happy to give them away so don’t be afraid to ask!
  4. Go Room By Room!
    Most people will tell you to start with the kitchen but I prefer to start with the least used room. I started with the guest room first and moved into our home office next. I packed as much as I reasonably could from each room before moving on to the next. Before you know it half of your house will be packed, with time to spare!
  5. Make A “Do Not Keep” Pile!
    What happens to this pile is entirely up to you but its inevitable that you will find things you don’t want or need as you pack. Don’t transfer clutter from one house to the next. If you had forgotten you had it, and never missed it, get rid of it! Make a pile for these things and donate them to the needy or pack them together in their own boxes to include in a garage sale at your new house!
  6. Label, Label, Label!
    Of course you have to label your boxes but as someone from a family that shares and reuses boxes from household to household, let me tell you writing on the actual box is not the best plan! Eventually it will be impossible to determine which label is the current label… Instead use a post it or any 5X5 note pad paper to write your label and then tape over it with packing tape as you seal your box. Also label inside the box! Label charges, electrical cords, and hardware removed from other items so you can easily figure out what goes where. Also don’t forget to label the sides of the boxes as well as the top! Once boxes are stacked on top of each other that top label won’t be much help…
  7. Don’t Pack It Too Heavy!
    It seems efficient to pack all like things in one box but it’s anti-productive to pack boxes so full of heavy dishes that you can’t lift it. Instead pack a box half full of heavy items and fill the rest with towels, sheets or clothes. Your back will thank you!
  8. Invite Friends and Family!
    This one we learned the hard way… Don’t wait until the week before your moving date to ask people to help you move. If you decide not to hire professional movers be sure to give your friends and family plenty of warning. The typical fee expected for helping you move will be pizza and beer but it can also be a lot more fun to make a party out of moving with people you like than some moving company employees you don’t know…
  9. Give Your Service Providers A Heads Up!
    Of course you will need to call your cable, internet and utility providers to cancel current services and provide your forwarding address. Don’t forget to also forward your mail through the post office and inform all other companies billing you (car payments, credit cards, insurance company, ect). You should also make one last appointment to see your doctor and your dentist. At this appointment inform them of your move and sign a release waiver to have your medical records transferred to your new doctor and dentist. If you haven’t found a new provider yet, ask for any references they may know of in your new area.
  10. Don’t Forget Your Pets!
    Moving is hard and stressful for you but don’t forget that your pets have it even worse. They can sense your stress and they can tell things are changing but they don’t understand what’s happening or why. If possible take your pets to a friends house for a play date on moving day to keep them out of they way and occupied. When you bring them to their new home, give them time and space to adjust without pressuring them to move too quickly.

 

Don’t forget to have fun! You are moving on to your next exciting adventure, start it with a positive attitude! Don’t sweat the small stuff and avoid the big issues with a little planning. My husband and I are so excited to be starting this next chapter of our life and I can’t wait to share it all with you!

 

 

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It’s Ok to not be OK

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Over the last several months the universe seems to have been against me. I had to focus on keeping my head above water and just trying to get by. I was dealt more than I thought I could handle and I needed to put myself aside to be the rock for my family despite what I was going through. I had to put this blog on a shelf but the time has come to bring it back! I can see the light through the forest, though life is still very hard right now I truly believe it is starting to turn around. I also realize through all of this that neglecting my own needs doesn’t help anyone.

I am a firm believer in looking on the bright side. It could always be worse, other people have it worse. While I still believe we should try to find the good in any bad situation, I have also come to learn that it’s ok to feel bad for yourself. It’s ok to accept and grieve for the troubles you are going through. Don’t wallow in your self pity but don’t ignore your feelings either.

Self awareness is a valuable skill everyone needs to improve. I have strived for as long as I can remember to a be strong and positive person at all times. This is an unrealistic and unfair expectation. No one can bare the world on their shoulders alone. I pushed through and forced myself to be “ok” until so much built up that the dam broke and for days I could do nothing but cry. My initial reaction to this was embarrassment. My coworkers, my family and friends, strangers, had all seen my breakdown. I felt weak and pitiful for not being able to carry my burden alone. As I apologized for my weakness I learned that I was the only one judging me for my breakdown. I started to realize that trying so hard to be strong and pretending for so long to be “ok” were the stepping stones to my downfall.

It’s Ok to not be Ok! I urge you to learn from my mistake. We all have struggles but mine don’t make yours any less real. The pain of people less fortunate than me don’t make mine any less painful. Sometimes life sucks, that is true for every living soul. Never feel guilty or weak for not being strong enough to carry your burden alone. If you could easily handle it, you wouldn’t learn from it. When someone asks if you are ok, be honest. If you feel like you are drowning, seek help. Don’t wait for your breaking point. Do what you need to do to get through it.

 

I know this post was a bit of a downer but it needed to be said. Now that I’m back, exciting posts are on the horizon! For those of you who love the DYI stuff, stay tuned! Big things are coming!

Have the day you’re going to have, but try to find the rays of sunshine hiding out there!

 

 

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Try A HIIT Workout!

Not a fan of running? Don’t have an hour each day to dedicate to complicated workout routines or DVDs? Get easily bored with slow paced motions?

Don’t worry you aren’t alone. I too have a hard time finding a workout I can stick with. I have recently discovered a solution to my exercise problem and I must say it’s fantastic! If you are like me and need a fresh alternative I suggest trying a HIIT workout!

What is a HIIT workout you ask? “HIIT” stands for “High Intensity Interval Training”. This type of workout is made up of intense bursts of all-out effort exercise followed by active recovery periods. The reason this works is it keeps your heart rate up and burns fat at a faster rate than other more steady workout routines. Some of my favorite things about this type of workout is the fact that it increases your metabolism, keeping your body burning fat long after you stop exercising! It is also the most convenient workout I’ve ever done! Ok now I just sound lazy… But seriously, no equipment is needed, just your own body and space to move around. It also only takes 20-30 minutes for better results than you would get with typical hour or two routines. One of my biggest obstacles with working out was fitting it into my schedule but now its so easy to take 30 minutes and feel good about myself all day!

I was skeptical at first but as someone who couldn’t stick with a routine for longer than two weeks I am amazed to find myself still motivated two months later! I had to share! There are a lot of websites and HIIT routines out there in the internet but if you want to see what got me hooked check out Lucy Wyndham-Read  on YouTube! I’m obsessed with her HIIT routines and she gives alternative moves for beginners as well so regardless of your level of fitness, she’s got you covered!

In a society where we all spend more time sitting in front of computers, smartphones and TVs than we do moving each day it’s important to find the exercise that is fun and engaging for you personally and build it into your daily life!

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Christmas Trip To Dufer (In Pictures)

December 26th-27th we made a trip to my grandparents house in Dufer Oregon. Even if you are from Oregon you may not know where that is. Dufer is a cute little country town south of The Dalles. I love taking scenery photos so I will let you see our journey rather than read it. I hope you enjoy the views as much as we did!

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A Look Back at 2015

Sometimes in life a year gets so derailed that when looking back it feels as if everything went horribly, horribly wrong. 2015 was this kind of year for me. At times it felt like I couldn’t possibly handle any more bad news (Now is yet again one of those times), it felt like things couldn’t possibly get worse. Well, as most of us know when things can’t possibly get worse is usually when they do…

Each week of 2015 has brought a new unexpected and unwanted difficulty for us and it isn’t over yet. I am counting the days until this terrible year is finally over. Many of these difficulties will follow us into 2016 but with each new year comes new opportunities and I plan to find all of the happiest opportunities I can!

Sometimes life is going to burry you in sh**! You have 2 choices, you can sit down and cry about it or you can grab a shovel and try to dig your way out of it. Through out this year I will admit sometimes I chose the crying option before sucking it up and grabbing a shovel but I always get up and keep trying. If I’ve learned anything this year it is that things can ALWAYS get worse and appreciating that they haven’t yet is a small but necessary blessing.

What I’m trying to say (not very clearly I’m sure) is no matter what struggles you may be facing always look for and cling to the good things in your life, no matter how small the good things may be, they will be what help to pull you through.

I hope your 2015 was better than mine and I hope 2016 is wonderful for us all!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

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10 Tips and Tricks for Hosting Thanksgiving!

Hosting Thanksgiving can be a daunting endeavor…
I am a perfectionist and easily stressed to boot, not a great combination when it’s your turn to host Thanksgiving… I love the idea of hosting everyone’s favorite annual dinner party but the first time I volunteered I learned a valuable lesson in Thanksgiving preparation. Nothing went as I had imagined and my stress level got out of control. What I had hoped would be a fun and delicious evening filled with laughter and family tales was ruined by my panic and stress. I picked a fight with anyone “doing it wrong” and made everyone uncomfortable. It was a disaster…

Just because the first try doesn’t go well doesn’t mean you should give up. Learn from your experiences and do better next time. My second try at hosting this Holiday went much better but still taught me several valuable lessons! If this is your first time hosting Thanksgiving, feel free to learn from my mistakes!
There is so much to do before guests start arriving and rushing for perfection can quickly overwhelm anyone. With a little planning and preparation, you too can pull off a wonderful holiday gathering!

Here are 10 of my tips and tricks to hosting a stress free Thanksgiving!

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MIA Explanation and October Posts Update!

“The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry.” – Robert Burns

October is one of my favorite months! It’s my anniversary month, my doggies birthday month, Fall is kicking into high gear, but most of all Halloween!!! All month long I immerse myself into all things Halloween! I have been planning my October blog posts for months! I had a detailed calendar scheduled for Halloween treats to cook and share, DIY spooky decorations and costumes to make, and a month full of Halloween adventures to report back to you on! But as Robert Burns so eloquently put it. “The best-laid plans…”, mine definitely went awry… On September 26th my giant dog fell on my head and gave me a concussion. I am still recovering but now more than three weeks later I am finally able to look at a computer screen long enough to post something… The month of October is now more than half over and before this weekend I hadn’t been able to any of the fun Halloween things I had planned. Which also means I haven’t prepared a single post I was so excited to create… 😦

Not to fear! I have a lot of catching up to do but I will fit in as many Halloween posts as I can before November arrives! My normal posting schedule of Monday = Food, Wednesday = Misc., Friday = Activities out the window! I will be posting whatever I can whenever I have it! Be prepared for all the Halloween you can handle crammed in to these remaining two weeks!

Starting in November I will get back on track with a normal posting schedule but for now I am rolling with the punches. Thank you for your understanding!

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Rose City Comic Con 2015!

One of my goals of starting this blog was to create an excuse and motivation to get out and try fun new things. Now each week I share those adventures with you! Last weekend I experienced my first ever Comic Con!
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You may be wondering how I could have gone 27 years without ever going to Comic Con. I had nothing against Comic Con and I was always curious but as someone who never read comics as a kid and still doesn’t read comics as an adult I felt it probably didn’t have anything of interest to offer me. I was wrong…

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